Charlie, I'm grateful for your writing, rawness and all. And I'm so happy that you are in a wonderfully different place in your life today with a loving husband and amazing little kids that you love so dearly. All of our life experiences are part of our path of learning and growth - I admire your courage to write about ALL your experiences.
Jack Dixon shared this today and it made me think of your piece.
As Boyd Varty reminds me in The Lion Tracker's Guide To Life, every action—even those that lead me where I don’t want to go—has a purpose:
“As paradoxical as it sounds, going down a path and not finding a track is part of finding the track. Alex and Renias call this “the path of not here.” No action is considered a waste, and the key is to keep moving, readjusting, welcoming feedback. The path of not here is part of the path of here.”
It seems we all have stories in our lives of discovering “not here.” Yours was one of them ❤️.
I've been thinking about this piece since Tuesday. It's harrowing and captivating. The controlling, the moving of the furniture, the not-responding to your letters (that just killed me). What I keep thinking of is this imperfect friend who ended up being such a good friend to you in these moments. Critically so. I love when she tells you you're not happy. Even the small but beautiful moment of giving you the sunglasses. I find all of this so moving. I love that it's an exploration of a dark period of your life, but that woven throughout is this friend's love and concern for you. It's beautiful stuff.
Wow, Rob, thank you. I love reading how you read it and which parts resonated. Friendship is a funny thing. I've never been able to explain my friendship with Lyndsey, but I suppose I just did.
Oh man, it's really like a form of therapy to dive back into these things. Hopefully there is healing, perspective and moving forward instead of re-traumatization! I want to be a fly on the wall after your kids read your memoir one day and you have a conversation about it.
It's definitely been all the good things you've mentioned so far. I haven't thought so much about my kids reading my memoir but I love that they will really get to know me through it.
Charlie, I'm grateful for your writing, rawness and all. And I'm so happy that you are in a wonderfully different place in your life today with a loving husband and amazing little kids that you love so dearly. All of our life experiences are part of our path of learning and growth - I admire your courage to write about ALL your experiences.
Thank you, James. That means a lot. I always appreciate your support when I share something so vulnerable and dark.
Jack Dixon shared this today and it made me think of your piece.
As Boyd Varty reminds me in The Lion Tracker's Guide To Life, every action—even those that lead me where I don’t want to go—has a purpose:
“As paradoxical as it sounds, going down a path and not finding a track is part of finding the track. Alex and Renias call this “the path of not here.” No action is considered a waste, and the key is to keep moving, readjusting, welcoming feedback. The path of not here is part of the path of here.”
It seems we all have stories in our lives of discovering “not here.” Yours was one of them ❤️.
Ugh this kills me. So good! I love Boyd Varty! His voice is so soothing and mesmerizing. I need to read this book.
His voice is just like your voice!
Haha no way!!
I've been thinking about this piece since Tuesday. It's harrowing and captivating. The controlling, the moving of the furniture, the not-responding to your letters (that just killed me). What I keep thinking of is this imperfect friend who ended up being such a good friend to you in these moments. Critically so. I love when she tells you you're not happy. Even the small but beautiful moment of giving you the sunglasses. I find all of this so moving. I love that it's an exploration of a dark period of your life, but that woven throughout is this friend's love and concern for you. It's beautiful stuff.
Wow, Rob, thank you. I love reading how you read it and which parts resonated. Friendship is a funny thing. I've never been able to explain my friendship with Lyndsey, but I suppose I just did.
Life is filled with various experience.Lucky you finally end up with a man who is up and doing.
Heart wrenching but great writing
Thank you, Wendy!
This is some real, and beautiful, and painful writing.
Thank you so much, Alec.
Yikes.
And this was the G-rated version.
Are we getting the whole story in the memoir?
Yes! This is the hardest part to write about. It's my darkest hour. I'm still figuring it out, but it will all be in there.
Oh man, it's really like a form of therapy to dive back into these things. Hopefully there is healing, perspective and moving forward instead of re-traumatization! I want to be a fly on the wall after your kids read your memoir one day and you have a conversation about it.
It's definitely been all the good things you've mentioned so far. I haven't thought so much about my kids reading my memoir but I love that they will really get to know me through it.
🥺